I've been online, I've been reading blogs, even commenting, but not really bothering to blog myself.
Mostly I've been addicted to Pinterest. I started "pinning" about a week and a half ago, and suddenly I have over 100 pins, like a dozen boards and I can't stop finding more things to pin! I'm totally hooked! Now I need to start actually acting on some of these things. If you're interested in seeing what I'm interested in, head over
HERE and check out my pins and request an invite if you want to start pinning your own. I'm totally going shopping this afternoon for supplies to try some of the "Ideas for Mom" pins, because I can't expect her to make all those things, I'm going to see what happens when I try to be crafty for the first time in awhile, who knows, maybe I'll find I can make someone worth selling, or at least giving away!
I'm also "pinning" tons of food ideas, from actual recipes, to cool cupcake decorating ideas, to fun food displays for parties, it's totally addicting! I'll make sure to post pictures if I find time to make any of these ideas any time soon!
We garage saled this weekend, made $55 bucks too! Not really sure how as I didn't have that much stuff, but it was still totally fun! Lots of CRAZY old people out shopping! All I know is my profit paid for more than 1 night at Disney for our anniversary trip.
Which, by the way, we're getting a real vacation ON our actual Anniversary! That's never happened! We've wanted to go away, even just get a nice hotel for a night for our anniversary every year, and this year we'd been saving to do a big trip, which got messed up by my brother-in-laws wedding expenses, but my sister and her family and my parents are all going to Disney in May for my sister's brother-in-law's wedding and my parents work, so we're tagging along. It's not exactly our romantic tropical vacation, that will have to wait another year, but it is a vacation! Which is much needed after NY.
NY was a fiasco, I almost wish I'd taken pictures to show you some of the hilarity of how tacky some of it was, but I really didn't want permanent memories, so no pictures. It was obvious from the moment we pulled in their driveway I wasn't welcome. My husband was clung to, I got one arm hugs and no words. While hanging out in front of the TV and around the dinner table, they'd ask my husband questions, he'd refer to me, I'd start answering and they'd change the subject and talk over me. The Thursday of wedding weekend all of the females, including groomsmen and ushers dates went to a spa, wine bar and fancy hotel. I found out after the fact from a date of an usher. I was never invited. My husband ended up having to spend well over $150 for his portion of the bachelor activities that went on from 9:30am-3:30am (18 freaking hours! Hello, we're not 21 anymore!) and then by 10am Friday he was getting texts from his brother asking where he was and from his mom telling him to "find some place to drop your wife so you can spend time with your family before the rehearsal". Needless to say, I just showed up with him. The rehearsal for their 20 minute ceremony took 1 hour 25 minutes to perform. I'm not sure how, other than the fact that the church coordinator kept giving them 5 options for everything and they had to try them all before deciding simple things like arms linked or holding hands, turning before or after prayer, etc..... At the rehearsal dinner my father-in-law made a huge thank you and introduction speech where he introduced the entire family, including grandma, uncle and aunt, but skipped me, his wonderful brother who's wife is the other family outcast (also married the first born) called him out on it mid speech.
Here's the best thing though, the part I'm still
dumb-founded, ticked beyond belief about-
So I'm sitting the back of the sanctuary, about an hour before the wedding while the guys are off taking pictures and the girls are getting ready and pretty much just family and the wedding party was in the building but I wasn't
needed welcome anywhere so I was sitting towards the back of the room playing Words with Friends and Facebooking waiting for someone to tell me what I was allowed to do after offering to help both the guys and girls and the family and getting turned down. I figured, if I'm not needed I'll just keep to myself and thank God for smart phones with entertaining apps! So, I'm sitting there minding my own business and the bride's mom comes rushing around all panicky and heading straight for me. She sits down next to me grabs my hand and announces that she "needs to pray!" So, I say fine and bow my head thinking this has potential to be a good thing. She starts off praying for a calm spirit and smooth ceremony and so forth, goes to praying for her daughter and my brother-in-law and their new marriage, and then, just before she's about the end, she throws in-
"and I pray this time with (insert in-laws names) would be a time of refreshment and therapy for Mr and Mrs Not So Newlywed and their troubled marriage. Amen"
I could have left my hand print on her face I was so mad. Of course I realize her not knowing us means she wasn't really to blame, because clearly, people are spreading lies about us in NY! Where does this woman who I'd met twice prior to the wedding and spoken to for maybe 15 minutes ever get off slamming my marriage????? The only reason she probably felt able to say anything was because she believed it to be true because of something one of my in-laws said. They are buddy buddy after all.
Of course less than 10 seconds after her "Amen" she was gone, so instead I just sat there
dumb-founded, fuming for the next 45 minutes until I was forced to take my real seat.
I still don't know for sure how these lies started, but I'd totally put money on my in-laws/brother-in-law.
Seriously people- GIVE IT UP ALREADY!!!!!!!! He married me because he loves me and wanted to marry me and nothing you can say or do will change that, let him be happy with me already! Let him have his own life and prioritize someone higher than you, spend more time with me than you, value my company more than yours. GET OVER IT!!!! Stop making me out to be some horrible evil control freak who brain-washed and manipulated your son into marrying me and letting me destroy his life. Did you ever stop to think that maybe he wanted this?? Did you ever think about his happiness instead of your own agenda? Stop putting your beloved son in the position where he feels he has to choose between his wife and his parents and siblings!
Okay, vent over, on to better things. Maybe, sometime, after I've downed at least one more coffee. This post has been a long time coming if you couldn't tell. I'm working on being the more mature, Christian person on this, so I'm not reacting, not taking action on anything, not even still mad really, just in awe of how mean and immature people can be really.
But, better things are ahead. I don't have to see them until July, and even then, it's optional, I may just refuse and make my husband see them alone since there's no point in going where I'm not welcome.
And, in the meantime, we get to go to Disney World for our 5th Anniversary in 3 weeks! The clothes shopping, planning and packing have begun! Can't wait!
Anyways, back to Saturday laundry, cleaning and errands. More later! More that won't be a giant vent too! Sorry/Thanks, you know what I mean!
